So he that goeth in to his neighbour's wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent.
Adultery is a heinous sin. It brings terrible consequences. You can no more escape its results than a man can hold fire or walk on coals and not be burned (Pr 6:27-28). Do not try to whitewash it. You think you can justify it? You think you can explain it? You think it is not that bad? How can something so mutually pleasant be wrong? Keep reading!
Because adultery is a great threat to a man’s success in life, King Solomon warned his son often against it (Pr 2:16-19; 5:1-23; 6:20-35; 7:1-27; 9:13-18; 22:14; 23:27-28; Eccl 7:23-29). The consequences of adultery include a ruined reputation (Pr 5:9; 6:33), poverty (Pr 5:10), horrible guilt (Pr 5:11-14), illegitimate children (Pr 5:16-18), sexual addiction (Pr 5:22; 22:14), an angry and jealous husband (Pr 6:34-35), and so forth.
Should you use popular euphemisms like “an affair,” “casual sex,” or “partying”? No! It is adultery – a heinous sin and a capital crime (Job 31:9-11; Lev 20:10). God hates it and will judge it, no matter what Hollywood, the ACLU, or CNN thinks about it (Heb 13:4; Gal 5:19-21; Rev 21:8). Men may understand a thief, but not an adulterer (Pr 6:30-33). God required stoning to death for adulterers and adulteresses (Lev 20:10; John 8:4-5), and both shall spend eternity in the lake of fire (I Cor 6:9-10; Gal 5:19-21; Rev 21:8).
The world defends and glamorizes adultery, making it easier to commit than ever before. Your heart is full of adultery by nature (Jer 17:9; Matt 15:17-20; Rom 7:8; Eph 4:17-19; I John 2:16), making you vulnerable to sexual temptations. The initial thoughts of it are pleasant to your flesh. And the devil would love to entice you into this destructive sin (I Pet 5:8-9). How will you resist this three-way conspiracy and barrage of temptation?
Solomon had given the cure (Pr 6:20-25). Young men must obey parents (Pr 6:20-23; 7:1-5). They must avoid any loose woman, especially her flattery (Pr 6:24; 5:3). They must not think about her beauty or see her wanton glances (Pr 6:25; Is 3:16). Parents must keep their sons from worldly women, and the sons must flee (Pr 5:8; Gen 39:11-12; II Tim 2:22). The cure is to stay far away. Get away from any and every loose woman.
God required capital punishment for adultery, because it reveals a wicked heart, and it destroys marriages and families (Deut 22:22; Job 31:1,12). It violates a sacred trust. A man that steals another’s most precious possession lacks basic understanding (Pr 6:32). Men and women cannot easily forgive it. The Lord allowed jealous husbands to test wives (Num 5:11-31). Are you glad such tests no longer exist? Think again (Num 32:23).
Have you committed adultery? Including fantasies and wrongful divorces, all are guilty (Matt 5:27-32). What can you do? Repent, confess it to God, and reject anything in your life toward it. God can and will forgive you, like He did David, if you confess and repent like David (Pr 28:13; Job 33:27-28; Mark 16:9; I John 1:9; II Sam 12:13; Ps 51:17). Then you must do everything you should with your own spouse to maximize love there.